There are a lot of different reasons for joining a sports league, and as an adult, a major motivation is to meet new people. The reason we are called Panna Social Leagues is to help that happen. This blog post is a long time coming, and will document how I went from being a stranger in a new city (Philadelphia) to having a crew and friends outside of work through Panna.
When you leave college and start work, the number of opportunities to forge genuine friendships drops. If you’re lucky, your work friends are cool and will have similar interests, and it’s possible to grab the occasional beer or meal with them. For most people, colleagues and family are the only people they interact with for a long time. The familiarity makes things easy, but eventually there’s definitely a desire to meet new people and form new bonds.
The best way to make those friendships, of course, is to play a team sport, and to go out to a social event. Fortunately, Panna makes both really easy.
The Philly Phutsal league actually started off as a work group. It was initially fastest to find coworkers to join the league, and since there’s a strong happy hour culture at work, it wasn’t a stretch to grab a beer after playing. Because we were playing on weeknights, people had already planned to stay a little later for happy hour. However, this became a replacement for our happy hours, so it was a quick game after work then people went home.
As we reached critical mass, we started recruiting friends from outside of work, and that allowed us to play on the weekend. We started grabbing beers and food after our Sunday games because again it matched up with a typical meal time: brunch. People were already used to congregating for mimosas on Sundays, so it wasn’t long before we actually convinced ourselves to start an hour early for the game, then stay another half hour to get some food. That led to beers and full on brunch. Having bars nearby that broadcast soccer matches was another factor; we ended up going to Ten Stone and Grace Tavern which were 10 minutes from the court.
Having a Sunday game before noon was also key. It gave us enough time to sober up from any Saturday night festivities, but also gave us enough time to enjoy the rest of the afternoon even after a brunch.
Once the post-game beer culture had been established, that led easily into weekend social events that were not always precipitated by games. Various core social groups formed around differing interests. Mine were loosely based on drinking, watching sports, and playing other sports like ping pong and bowling, and we had several outings where either all the group, or most of the group, were able to participate. The boundary between social league and social group BECAME hard to distinguish.
The most important factor is still the bonds formed in league games. Philly Phutsal has been in one league and will be participating in a second in the spring, and the bonds formed as teammates makes the time spent together outside of the games sweeter as well. We had a tough season and going out for beer helped dampen the sense of loss, but also reinforced that forming friendships was more important than winning. In fact, I would argue that losing (well played games) is better for forming these bonds than winning every game.
Now, whenever I meet a new player in the league, I almost always expect to hear “I just moved to the city”. The reason they sought us out was because they wanted to play soccer. But I know that the reason they’ll stay is for the beer and friendship.
Happy Organizing!
Written by Bobby Ren - cofounder of Panna Social Leagues and organizer of PhillyPhutsal